I attended the Children's Justice Center Program and Utah Prosecution Council's Children's Justice/Domestic Violence Conference this week and came away amazed.

While the entire conference was fabulous, one of the most moving speakers was a survivor of domestic violence.

This woman described her experiences, part of which was captured on videotape by her then 13-year old son, at the command of her ex-spouse. The horrific moments captured in that tape were just a snapshot of her existence.

Despite all that she endured, this incredible lady came to a room full of 500 strangers to share her personal story. Her courage in the face of all that had happened and all that she continues to do was inspiring.

It was also informative. As she described her daily life, many in the room asked the common question, why stay? She explained how the abuse built over time, beginning with many attacks on her self esteem so that, by the time the abuse became physical, she did believe to some extent that she was at fault. She also explained the desire to keep her family together. Anyone who has ever contemplated divorce can understand the myriad emotions that such a decision raises.

Then she explained how hard it was to leave. Not because of a desire to stay, but because of the many risks involved. Leaving an abusive situation, without any information about how or whether a victim can be protected, is a frightening process. The presenter noted that it takes the average victim seven opportunities before she will leave the relationship.

Perhaps the most distressing point of the presentation was a picture the presenter showed that her son had painted. She explained that her son loves art and has always drawn pictures of animals and other bright things. After his father was sentenced to prison for his abuse of his mother, he drew a very dark picture with a small spot of light. He explained to his mother that the small light area was the little corner of his life where he feels safe.

Domestic violence, including teen dating violence, is a widespread issue that needs ever more attention and resources. No woman, child, or man should have to experience what the presenter and her children endured.